The fascination of Facebook

Oh! what do u do with that laptop of yours? My mother's exasperated tone pulled me out of my Facebook wall. I handed her my notebook and showed her. she had me going through all our cousins wall for about half an hour. it was like reading out a bed time story to a three yr old. especially a fairy tale with a lot of pictures of princesses and glass slippers(my personal favorite). "you asked me what i was doing mom" i teased after some time. she smiled an elfish smile that my mom always gives whenever we are conspirating something against dad. we were now partners in crime. though she isn't tech savvy enough to create a profile of her own, she contends with stalking my profile and i take her on a Fb tour aon a regular dietary basis. What is her fascination with facebook? my mother whose interest in computers are limited to solitaire, and only because she wins that game easily, had never taken to anything as easily as this. why does this facebook entice me so much, i asked. though the same question from my parents had put me on a defensive note many times, the question coming from oneself can only lend to deep introspection.

From the day i was introduced to the pencil and paper, we had become best friends. to an extent my grandmother would say stories about how i would write all over the wall in an attempt to create my sonnet,which at the age of four was mostly wierd shaped circles. but writing has always been a passion, and being heard! well there's isn't a better reward to a writer than like minded souls tasting his/her compositions and leaving their comments. the mind of a thinker is in constant need for expression. its a pity that there aren't any pensive in the muggle world. and there Tada!!! they created facebook. there have been days when i had a lovely thought, prose or poem in my mind and ran to my mobile midst all my work to post it. when it received likes and comments it would flush me with a pride that only a fellow writer would understand! am i insecure and craving for attention. well if so, then which artist or blogger or writer or cinematographer isn't??? i write in a few sentences called "my status" and it's most difficult to express oneself with fewer words. the world has mocked at me saying i waste too much time on Fb! i am a micro blogger, would u mock an artist that he spends too much time in his studio? this is my passion, to write and be heard and make a change. i would consider it a waste of my time for this is my hobby and 'my friends' are the subjects i rule in my Fb kingdom. i can make them like dislike arouse an anger, make them think, and make a change with my words and it gives me immense sense of self satisfaction doing the same. no one can say i am neglecting my work or duties caus we Fbites know how to balance our work and play. Atleast my hobby puts use my grey matter and improves the my world sense all the while keeping my friends close and connecting with them across oceans. i feel like a queen! this is why Facebook is fabulous!

What drives him!!!!!!!

I write this article after deep research on male psychology, and i apologize to all the sweet men who didn’t realize i was using them as lab rats. Well, a woman's got to do what she has, to keep up in this heavy traffic, right? i know most women would agree with me. I live by the principle that to seize a man, you should understand him more, and love him less. This theory I propose as an easy way to dissect the male brain without being overtly judgmental. All in all, it is most important to choose the right kind of guy and I hope this works out fine as much for you as it does for me.

A man’s driving can tell definitely a lot about the man’s psyche. For one, men consider driving a vehicle much more than a means of transporting themselves from one place to another. Driving, like any other soulful hobby say painting or playing a piano, is a passion. Trust me personally any day I would prefer a guy who drives passionately than paints. So first scrutiny falls upon the condition of his vehicle. If the vehicle is spic and span let’s give him 70 not wait 90 points. This man takes good care of the things that matter to him. Though you shouldn’t expect him to love you the most, as his bike is gonna come before you anyway. If you are the kind of woman who is not overtly possessive and willing to share a man with his Yamaha or royal Enfield then I say you are one step closer to finding your soul mate, if at all such a thing exists. Prefer a man who cares of his vehicle and one day he is gonna care for you probably the same.

We have travelled at least with one guy who is all calm and gentlemanly while dining and as soon as he mount’s his car or bike you see a appalling side to him. Yes, am talking about the 'chronic swearer'. If you want to learn bad words in tamil, ride pavilion with this man. Points you girls should note. This man is short tempered and easily provocative. Unless and until you’re a strong hearted woman with her head on her shoulders I’d advise you hop off at the next signal and catch an auto home. Men are vulnerable while driving, what with the traffic and mundane rules they’d have to follow. But I feel so is life and any guy who is disturbed enough to swear out loud in traffic would definitely fail to stay calm at the testing stages life is gonna throw at him. He is passionate no doubt but also a bit immature.

Then there is the man who thinks he can reach his destination faster if he keeps cutting lanes and swirling between the cars that race! In tamil there is an expression “ Cycle gap le airplane otturan” which translates, trying to run an airplane into a space which would only accommodate a cycle. This is the man who is focused on his objective. And he would do just about anything to get there. Though that could be a feather on his cap in his profession how would you feel about living with a man who always prefers to choose the life’s easiest path. No matter all the consequences he has to face while going through the short cut. He is happy he has reached his destination in life and that alone satisfies him. He lives life in quickie mode. For a woman who is laid back and wants to savor life's moments,he’d probably get bored of you or you will die of a nervous fit, no bet which happens first though. Are you a woman of principles? Please start running now.

The slow and cautious driver. His speedo-meter would never cross 40 km/hr and mind you that is the actual speed limit within the city. How many of us have driven at that? No, he is not like us. He would stick to the grave rules of the traffic police, has never received a traffic ticket and stops behind the stop line. Sounds like a gentle man right, well mostly he is. But you shouldn miss the obsessive streak in this behavior pattern. He could either be affected by OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder) or be the most feared perfectionist. If you are like me a clumsy girl next door, get ready to be fostered by your partner. Lectures on how to do stuff and when and at precisely what rate can be very easily expected. Nevertheless he’s a stable man and very dependable.

I conclude from my study of most common patterns in driving, that a man who can manage city traffic can manage his woman well. And to study a man you do so when he is at his most vulnerable state: driving. Till date I follow this heartless way of analysis the male species and you know what? Am having a pretty good time. Shouldn’t you? Any day I would trust a man who could drive well. Speaking with science driving requires a high sense of motor co-ordination and intellectual reasoning and decision making skills. An alert mind is a recipe to a healthy human being. What better way to select my partner?